Hi, mama. If you’re here, you might be thinking about ending your breastfeeding journey, and that can bring up all sorts of feelings—excitement, sadness, pride, and maybe a little relief. As a lactation consultant and fellow mom, I’ve been through this myself and with countless moms, and I know how personal this transition is. No matter how long you’ve been breastfeeding, this is a big step, and it’s worth giving yourself the space to honor it.

Knowing When It’s Time to Wean

Every mom and baby has their own unique journey, and there’s no one-size-fits-all answer to when it’s time to stop. For some, weaning happens naturally as a baby loses interest; for others, it’s a conscious choice due to lifestyle changes or simply feeling ready for a new chapter.

If you’re noticing any of these signs, it might be time to start considering weaning:

• Your baby is naturally losing interest in breastfeeding, often distracted or turning away.

• You feel physically or emotionally ready to transition, or perhaps you’re returning to work or facing other changes.

• Your baby is enjoying solid foods and drinks water or milk from a cup with ease.

Remember, there’s no “perfect” time to wean, and every decision made with love and consideration is the right decision for you and your baby.

Making the Transition Smoothly

When you’re ready to start the weaning process, doing it gradually can make it a gentler experience for both of you. Here are some tips to help make this transition smoother:

1. Drop One Feeding at a Time: Start by eliminating one nursing session per day, ideally one your baby is least interested in. Give both your body and your baby a chance to adjust before dropping the next session.

2. Replace with Comfort and Connection: Nursing is about more than just feeding—it’s comfort too. Try replacing breastfeeding sessions with other soothing rituals, like extra cuddle time, a special story, or a warm bath together.

3. Introduce Milk Alternatives (If Ready): If your baby is over one year, you can introduce whole milk or a milk alternative in a cup to replace breast milk. Talk to your pediatrician if you have questions about the best options for your baby’s age and health.

4. Take Care of Your Body: Weaning can affect your body, from hormonal changes to engorgement. Slowly reducing feedings helps avoid clogged ducts and discomfort. Drinking sage tea, which naturally lowers milk supply, or using cold compresses can help if you experience engorgement.

Navigating the Emotions of Weaning

Weaning can stir up a surprising amount of emotion. It’s normal to feel proud, relieved, or even sad as you let go of this intimate part of your relationship. Many moms feel an unexpected wave of grief; this is completely natural, as it represents a shift in your role and relationship with your baby. Take time to reflect, journal, or talk to other moms who’ve been there.

It’s also natural for your baby to need a little extra comfort during this transition. Be patient with yourself and with them as you both adjust to a new way of connecting. Trust that your bond remains strong and special, whether or not breastfeeding is part of it.

Celebrate the Journey You Shared

Breastfeeding is a journey that takes patience, love, and resilience, and reaching the end of that journey is a major milestone. Take time to celebrate how far you’ve come and the beautiful bond you’ve built with your little one. You might find it meaningful to honor this chapter with a keepsake, something you can hold onto as a reminder of all you’ve shared.

At Mama Milk Fairy, we create special keepsake jewelry from your own breastmilk, so you can carry a piece of this journey with you always. And if breastfeeding wasn’t possible, we can also create keepsakes from formula, umbilical cords, or first locks of hair. Every journey deserves to be honored, no matter what form it took.